Surviving & Moving on

Surviving & Moving on, self-help for survivors of childhood sexual abuse by Dr Kim McGregor. I read this book, a timely thing with the Roast Busters.

http://rpe.co.nz/meet-the-director/

Dr Kim McGregor is the Executive Director of Rape Prevention Education Whakatu Mauri (RPE). She has contributed to the sexual violence prevention programmes and initiatives RPE has developed since she began with RPE in 2005, including: school-based programmes BodySafe, Sex ‘n’ Respect Parties and Sex ‘n’ Respect Alternative Education; youth booklet Sex ‘n’ Respect Working with Young People to Promote Respectful Relating and Prevent Sexual Violence; youth website www.sexnrespect.co.nz; whanau and rangatahi programmes (developed by Maori clinical specialists) Tiaki Tinana and Rangatahi & Sexual Health; professional education workshops Dealing with Disclosures and SCAN; and works to raise awareness about sexual violence issues with the National Sexual Violence Survivor Advocate Louise Nicholas.





The West Auckland teen group, who dubbed themselves Roast Busters, came to prominence last year with videos of themselves online boasting about having sex with drunk, underage girls.

The police officer in charge of the investigation, Detective Inspector Karyn Malthus, said the decision not to charge came about due to a range of factors including ‘‘evidential tests under the solicitor-general’s prosecution guidelines’’.

The Roast Busters make me think of all the girls they had raped, yet nothing is done for them.

Shame! Shame! Shame!

The Roast Busters scandal caused widespread outrage after it was revealed young men were posting videos of themselves online bragging about sexual activities with drunk, underage girls -- some as young as 13. The Roastbusters are a "gang" of lowlife teenage boys who have been drugging, raping and feeding little girls with alcohol, filming it and putting it on the Internet. 


Detective Inspector Bruce Scott of Waitemata district said in November 2013 that even though police were aware of the group, there was nothing they could do until a girl was "brave enough" to make a formal complaint.
Days later it emerged a young teen had complained to police two years before, but she was not taken seriously.

The 15-year-old who went to police about the Roast Busters in 2011, said she would lay a new formal complaint after the scandal broke. She also criticised police for their line of questioning, asking her what she was wearing at the time of the assault, when she was aged just 13.

Police have released the findings in the Operation Clover investigation into eight incidents, involving seven victims who made formal complaints, and five suspects.
A further 25 girls declined to make formal statements, but were believed to have been victims of sexual offending.

 This week the Police decided not to charge them.

There will be a  march at 2pm this afternoon. From Britomart to Aotea Square. Do it for your sisters, mothers, grandmothers, aunties, girlfriends, wives, anyone you know.

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11350007
 http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11350007

My Nephew Joshua

So proud of my nephew.
Josh is running a SOS campaign and raising money against sex slavery. He is doing it at a shopping Centre tonight. And also he has been voted as Head Prefect for his college in 2015

http://www.thea21campaign.org/index.php 

Human Trafficking is modern-day slavery

Human trafficking fuels the growth of organized crime, undermining health, safety, security, and the basic needs of humanity. It is the fastest growing crime in the world.

A21 EXISTS TO ABOLISH INJUSTICE IN THE 21ST CENTURY.

We are a non-profit organization who believes that together, we can end human trafficking. 

 Here is our strategy:

PREVENTION

A21 prevents human trafficking through awareness and education. Read more

PROTECTION

A21 protects victims of human trafficking through restoration programs. more

PROSECUTION

A21 pursues justice by prosecuting human traffickers. more

PARTNERSHIP

A21 partners with people just like you to fight for freedom together. Learn more

This is a different theme to what sends you a fright down your spins. Sex trafficking and slavery of little girls.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Halloween [Friday My Town Shoot Out] [Link-up]

From pumpkins to jack-o-lanterns, from lonely fields to spooky ruins, what can you show us from your town that will send a fright down or spines?

http://mytownshootout.blogspot.co.nz/

Petitioning The Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand

• Petitioning The Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand

Publicly condemn the comments by fashion designer Denise L'estrange that "clothes look better on skinny people"

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      kelly pope
      christchurch, New Zealand

      
      

      Discussing the recent display of Glassons manequins with visible ribs on TV One's "Breakfast" show this morning, fashion designer Denise L'estrange commented that those concerned need to "get a life".
       "Let's face it, clothes look better on skinny people," she told the show.
      While these comments have shocked New Zealanders for their insensitivity, the fact that Denise has a background in mental health promotion is even more disappointing, especially given the huge number of young women (and others) struggling with eating disorders - a mental illness linked with huge stigma, discrimination and an alarmingly high mortality rate.
      Over the past years the Mental Health Foundation has had close links with Denise, accepting her high-profile support, and championing her story of recovery from depression.
      The Mental Health Foundation is the voice that challenges stigma and discrimination against people with mental illness in New Zealand, and in this role has highlighted a number of issues where attitudes expressed by public figures or in the media have contributed to stigma.
      This important counter-discrimination role in society, as well as the Foundation's established relationship with Denise L'estrange, make it imperative that the Mental Health Foundation call out these comments.
      The Mental Health Foundation has led the way in acknowledging the social causes of mental distress, with campaigns such as the Five Winning Ways to Wellbeing, which highlight how everyday experiences contribute to wellbeing.
      This and the fact that research shows the link between social pressures of thinness and eating disorders (many times eating disorders begin as a benign attempt to diet) should prompt the Mental Health Foundation to publicly condemn the views expressed by Denise.
      "If walking past a store with a mannequin with its ribs showing is going to offend you or make you think that it's encouraging people to starve themselves, then I really think you may need to find better things to do with your life."
       Comments such as this overlook how glorified thinness can be a trigger for many people recovering from eating disorders, and contribute to stigma and discrimination against people with eating disorders. They should not be coming from someone who champions mental health recovery and social inclusion.
      Sign this petition to call on the Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand to join the opposition to Denise's comments by publicly condemning them.

      To:
      The Mental Health Foundation of New Zealand

      Publicly condemn the comments by fashion designer Denise L'estrange that "clothes look better on skinny people"

      Sincerely,
      [Your name]

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      Reasons for signing

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      • ann chin AUCKLAND NEWZEALAND, AL

        • 6 minutes ago
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        I am the writer of Cry Oppressed Women, and Mail Order Bride. I give a voice to women who might not normally speak up.
      • Thomas Roud CHRISTCURCH, NEW ZEALAND

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        Amazed that a fashion designed could be at once extremely offensive, perpetuate attitudes that do a lot of harm, and be completely ignorant of the history of fashion at the same time.
      • Ellen Coup PARAPARAUMU, NEW ZEALAND

        • about 7 hours ago
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        Clothes exist for people and we come in all shapes and sizes.
      • Andrew Ginther WELLINGTON, NEW ZEALAND

        • about 23 hours ago
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        Just plain ignorant of the issues facing teenage girls growing up and being subjected to unhealthy consumer stereotypes.
      • Tamara Syme CHRISTCHURCH, NEW ZEALAND

        • 2 days ago
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        She should be ashamed. I am disgusted, and being someone that already struggles with body image and eating, these sorts of comments do not help.

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Glassons apologising on its use of skinny mannequins

On 10th Of October, I did this blog.  I feel vindicated that I am not the only person who felt the way I did,

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/lifestyle/news/article.cfm?c_id=6&objectid=11343660 

Women's clothing giant Glassons is backtracking on its use of skinny mannequins, apologising to customers for the "unattainable depiction of women".
The apology, released this evening, follows a strong public backlash and an online petition - which attracted 16,000 signatures in a day - demanding removal of the mannequins, which featured visible ribs.
Hallenstein Glasson Chief executive Graeme Popplewell said the company agreed its mannequins were unacceptable.
He had ordered their removal from display in all stores.
"While these mannequins are not new to the business, we have taken on-board the feedback of New Zealand women in its entirety, and we unreservedly apologise for any upset we may have caused those who viewed the store displays," he said.
"The removal of the offending mannequins is effective immediately and once again we wish to reiterate how truly sorry we are to the women of New Zealand," he said.

We're sorry for featuring display mannequins which have been described as an unattainable depiction of women. We agree that the mannequins are unacceptable, and we have removed them from all stores. While these mannequins are not new to the business, we have taken on-board the feedback in its entirety, and we unreservedly apologise for any upset we may have caused those who viewed the store displays. The removal of the offending mannequins is effective immediately and once again we wish to reiterate how truly sorry we are. We would also like to reassure you that in future a more rigorous selection process will be adhered to for its point of sale display mannequins. Hallenstein Glasson CEO, Graeme Popplewell.

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A skinny rib sticking out mannequin is the centre of a discussion in New Zealand.

I just happened to have taken this photo of the company, but not the branch concerned. These mannequins are fully clothes. You can see they are very skinny.

I personally think it is irresponsible for companies to do that. Mannequins can lead to young girls leading to projecting eating disorders, anorexia nervosa,"thinspiration," girls starving themselves to death, or the rise in hospital admissions of young women with eating disorders, increasing obsession with cosmetic surgery,
What do you think?
Does the mannequin promote an unhealthy body image?
http://reducefootprints.blogspot.com/

Blog Action Day Oct 16th 2014: feed the hungry children

In New Zealand, we have family support from the Government, yet children go to school with no shoes, breakfast or warm weather clothes. Some thing is wrong somewhere.

One Friday, children from higher decile schools were asked to bring a can of beans or spaghetti to donate to poorer schools. 
Thursday Challenge is a place for photographic fun and learning. A theme is announced on this site each week

Thursday Challenge theme is: HAPPY (Smiles, Faces, Laughter, Humorous Things,...)  I was happy, so were the children when they donated their cans of food.

http://www.spunwithtears.com/thursday.html





http://www.childpoverty.co.nz/

When a child grows up in poverty they miss out on things most New Zealanders take for granted. They are living in cold, damp, over-crowded houses, they do not have warm or rain-proof clothing, their shoes are worn, and many days they go hungry.
Many more don’t get to go to the doctor when they are sick, because they can’t afford the costs of the appointment and the medicine. Others stay home from school because they don’t have all the uniform or lunch to take. Poverty can also cause lasting damage. It can mean doing badly at school, not getting a good job, having poor health and falling into a life of crime.
We are slowly seeing some action to reduce the numbers of children missing out. We need to know if these changes are making a difference for kiwi kids.
Every year the Child Poverty Monitor will record how well or badly we’re doing for kiwi kids.
The Child Poverty Monitor uses data from Otago University to show how many children are in different types of poverty.
To find out more about child poverty, you can read the Children’s Commissioner’s Expert Advisory Group report Solutions to Child Poverty in New Zealand: Evidence for Action.

The Annual Child Poverty Monitor is a partnership project between the Children’s Commissioner, the JR McKenzie Trust and Otago University.
In 2012 the Children’s Commissioner’s Expert Advisory Group on Solutions to Child Poverty put forward 78 recommendations on a range of ways to address child poverty.
One of those recommendations was around the need to measure and report on child poverty rates annually. We believe this is a vital step in reducing child poverty in New Zealand and that is why this project was born.
Each year, for the next five years, we will report on income poverty, material hardship, severity of poverty and persistent poverty. In time we will also include information on child poverty-related indicators from health, housing, education and disability.
The measures of child poverty we are reporting on come from a solid base of research and data already collected here in New Zealand.


http://blogactionday.org/

Migrant Services Trust

Mary Dawson , the CEO Auckland Regional Migrant Services Trust and an Ethiopian refugee spoke on their work in getting refugee women to be empowered, and start their own business.  Today's NZ Chinese Association 's function fundraised for them.

My Cry of Oppressed women wrote of oppressed women who were freed. Photo from NZ Chinese post

75 years of Chinese refugee in New Zealand

 

 With Historian, Writer Helen Wong. Thank you Helen for inviting me. I feel very much one of you, a compatriot as referred to by the Consul-General of China.

 I snapped a photo of the name tags of the VIP who attended.

We have mutual friends. Jeff Turner who I know in church tells me his family and the Chinese  go back as far as 6th generation. He sponsored items for auction, and played a role in being the auctioneer.

75th Anniversary of the chinese refugees in New Zealand

Seventy five years ago, 239 women and 244 children fled the brutal Japanese invasion of Canton and made their way to New Zealand; marking the beginning Chinese family settlement in Aotearoa (New Zealand)

My ancestors came from Quang Ning is Kwong Tung Province, and at the time these refugees set sail to New Zealand, my people had left as a sort of refugee to Borneo.

Today, I joined my friend Helen Wong and her family and I felt very comfortable among them in their celebration. I note the success of these refugees and children and grandchildren of the refugees.

The Chinese have always been working hard, and going about quietly in the market garden,s fruit and vegetable shops and laundry shops. I think how I have borrowed one of them "Kim" and "Ah Fook"in my book Cry of Oppressed Women.

Today is the second time I have been referred to as a compatriot.Niu Qingbai, the Consul-General of the People's China in Auckland referred me as his compatriot. Exactly one year ago, My people, the Quang Ning organisers of my book launch addressed me as compatriot.

Market gardeners

http://www.stuff.co.nz/auckland/local-news/manukau-courier/9012161/Bledisloe-Cup-for-service-to-horticulture

But market gardeners Joe and Fay Gock have done just that after nearly 60 years in horticulture.

In my book, Ah Fook and Kim were market gardeners.

Save the world: Too skinny mannequins

A skinny rib sticking out mannequin is the centre of a discussion in New Zealand.

I just happened to have taken this photo of the company, but not the branch concerned. These mannequins are fully clothes. You can see they are very skinny.

I personally think it is irresponsible for companies to do that. Mannequins can lead to young girls leading to projecting eating disorders, anorexia nervosa,"thinspiration," girls starving themselves to death, or the rise in hospital admissions of young women with eating disorders, increasing obsession with cosmetic surgery,
What do you think?
Does the mannequin promote an unhealthy body image?
http://reducefootprints.blogspot.com/

How to make pickled cabbage

same steps as pickling mustard green; http://annkitsuet-chinchan.blogspot.co.nz/2014/10/how-to-make-asian-pickled-mustard-greens.html substitute with cabbage.
Pickling solution

In a big pot. put 8 cups of cold water, 

4 table spoons of sugar

4 table spoons of salt

1 table spoon of turmeric.

4 very spicy hot chilli.

Heat them and stir until sugar and salt is dissolved.

Cool the sugar-salt liquid. To cool quickly, put the pot in a basin of cold water, changing the cold water frequently.

How to make Asian Pickled Mustard Greens 酸菜

Asian Pickled Mustard Greens 

GAI CHOI vegetables

 pickling solution of sugar-salt and turmeric liquid

 soak and washed Gai Choi 3 times

 spicy red chillis

 blanch quickly in a big pot of boiling water

 squeeze dry the veg.

 dry glass bottle,

 add pickling solution to cover the veg. add 2 table spoon of vinegar in each bottle, keep in fridge.

 after three days.

 From a young age, I watched Grand pa Chan and mother make our own Cantonese Mustard green pickle.酸菜

We loved this sweet and sour and crunchy pickle. My sisters have different modified ways. 

Unfortunately, the water engineer is not keen in the preservatives in the shop bought ones, and if I made them, his words of botulism rings in my ear.  

I decided to make some when daughter G asked for some Giam Chye fish. I happen to have just bought the GAI CHOI vegetables. 

Here's how I made it:

In a big pot. put 8 cups of cold water, 

4 table spoons of sugar

4 table spoons of salt

1 table spoon of turmeric.

4 very spicy hot chilli.

Heat them and stir until sugar and salt is dissolved.

Cool the sugar-salt liquid. To cool quickly, put the pot in a basin of cold water, changing the cold water frequently.

Three bundles of GAI CHOI,

cut into 1 and 1/2 inch lengths, quick soaks of veg in lots of water, and drain. Check if there is no more sediments left.

In a big pot of boiling water, quickly blanch the Veg, stir quickly, when veg turns bright green. Remove from heat.

Drain the veg from the hot water, pouring vegs and water into a sieve.

Put veg into a basin of cold water, move it around, do this three times, until the veg are cool to touch.

In the sieve, squeeze the veg until they are quite dry. Put the veg into clean bottles.

When the the sugar-salt liquid is cooled, add 4 spoons of vinegar. Add to the veg in the bottle. Cover and keep in fridge.

Pickle should be ready in 3 days. The end product is yellow due to the turmeric. My mum did not use turmeric, her pickles are a dull yellow.

The finished product should be crunchy, sour, and super delicious.

Banker kills wife,

A jury cleared Mr Ellerbeck murder and convicted him instead of manslaughter on the grounds of lack of intent

Just four years after he killed his wife in a jealous rage, a millionaire banker is out of jail and back living with their two children at the family home where he strangled her.
Neil Ellerbeck, 49, has moved into the smart suburban house where he took his wife Kate's life after she asked for a divorce.
Mr Ellerbeck, who earned £170,000 as HSBC's global chief of investment, feared losing his two children, £650,000 home and £1.3million fortune in the break-up.
He lashed out after bugging her phone calls and reading her texts, discovering she had been having an affair with her son's tennis coach as well as having 'close friendships' with a childhood sweetheart and a chef at the Ritz.
She received 43 separate injuries in the attack in November 2008, around 18 of which were on her face.
After his furious assault, Ellerbeck collected their ten-year-old daughter from a school entrance exam.
He later insisted his 46-year-old wife had been alive when he left her.
During his Old Bailey trial three years ago, it emerged he had been having an affair himself during the troubled 14-year marriage.
He was acquitted of murder but jailed for eight years for manslaughter after a jury accepted he did not intend to kill his wife.
Time spent in custody awaiting trial and his good behaviour means he served a total of four years behind bars.

Neil Ellerbeck, pictured is seen unloading boxes of what looks like flat pack furniture from his car and in to the house

Banker Neil Ellerbeck and wife Kate are photographed at a party. Mr Ellerbeck was jailed in 2009 after being found guilty of her manslaughter

He moved back into the family home in Enfield, North London, after his release last month.
He has been seen moving flat-pack furniture into the property, now believed to be worth around £800,000, which he shares with his son, 17, and daughter, 14.
Yesterday, he said: 'It's early days. I'm just trying to get settled back with the children.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2257449/Millionaire-banker-Neil-Ellerbeck-killed-wife-jealous-rage-home-strangled-her.html#ixzz3FckVJDd4
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new wife killed during their honeymoon

(CNN) -- A millionaire British businessman accused of hiring hit men to kill his new wife during their honeymoon in South Africa pleaded not guilty as his trial began Monday.

Shrien Dewani, 34, has denied orchestrating the killing of his wife, Anni, in Cape Town in November 2010.

The slaying took place during a taxi ride through a township on the edge of the South African city, just over two weeks after the couple's wedding.

The taxi driver, Zola Tongo, confessed within weeks of the bride's death that he had hired two men to kill her. In a plea deal with South African authorities, he said he was paid by Dewani to carry out the murder and to make it look as though the couple were the victims of a carjacking.

Tongo was subsequently sentenced to 18 years in prison for his part in the killing. His two accomplices are also serving lengthy sentences for their role in the crime.

Family hoping for answers

The victim's family say they are relieved that Dewani is now going on trial in Cape Town.

"Hopefully, we will get all the answers we want," her uncle Ashok Hindocha said Sunday, according to local media reports.

Dewani, a care home owner, had returned to the United Kingdom after his wife's death. He avoided extradition to South Africa on mental health grounds during a three-year court battle, but was eventually sent back in April to face trial.

http://edition.cnn.com/2014/10/06/world/africa/south-africa-honeymoon-murder-trial/index.html

My Book CV

Auckland University library, Sarawak Council libraries and the Auckland city libraries are circulating all my books.

 

Book	Mail order bride / Ann Kit Suet Chin Publish info: Auckland : Ann Kit Suet Chin, 2013. Subject: 21st century, New Zealand fiction Found: Ann (3) chin (3) kit (3) suet (3) » Save or tag... » Check availability
Book	Cry of oppressed women / Ann Kit Suet Chin Publish info: Auckland : Ann Kit Suet Chin, 2014. Subject: 21st century, New Zealand fiction Found: Ann (3) chin (3) kit (3) suet (3) » Save or tag... » Check availability
Book	From China to Borneo and beyond / Ann Kit Suet Chin Publish info: [Auckland, N.Z. : Ann Kit Suet Chin-Chan, 2013] Subject: Family, History, Chinese, Chin, Ann Kit Suet, Chan family, Kong family, 20th century, Malaysia Found: chin (9) Ann (5) kit (5) suet (5) » Save or tag... » Check availability
Book	Diary of a bereaved mother / Ann Kit Suet Chin "This is a real life story of losing one's only son. This experience has made the author strong and caring. This tragedy has been a great… Publish info: [Auckland, N.Z.] : A.K.S. Chin, 2011. Subject: Psychological aspects, Diaries, Loss (Psychology), Parents of terminally ill children, Bereavement, Chin, Ann Kit Suet, New Zealand Found: chin (5) Ann (4) kit (4) suet (4) » Save or tag... » Check availability
Book	Diary of a bereaved mother / Ann Kit Suet Chin "This is a real life story of losing one's only son. This experience has made the author strong and caring. This tragedy has been a great… Publish info: [Auckland, N.Z.] : A.K.S. Chin, [2011] Subject: Psychological aspects, Diaries, Loss (Psychology), Parents of terminally ill children, Bereavement, Chin, Ann Kit Suet, New Zealand