Mother in law tongue

this year must be a special year for mother-in-laws. This plant is flowering. My friend wondered why it has such a horrible name, He said it should aptly be called daughter-in-law plant, referring to me. 

it's call mother in law tongue because in the old days the MIL's had very sharp tongue......meaning they are fierce and likes to scold their DIL........don't you ppl agree..
 
 三 從 四 德. The three obedience of a woman: ‘obey her father before marriage, her husband when married, and her sons in widowhood’ and the four virtues: morality, proper speech, modest manner and diligent work of women in ancient China; spiritual fetters of wifely submission and virtue imposed on women in feudal society （古 代 中 国 妇 女 应 有 的 品 德。三 从 是 未 嫁 从 父、既 嫁 从 夫、夫 死 从 子, 四 德 是 妇 德、妇 言、妇 容、妇 功 (妇 女 的 品 德、辞 令、仪 态、女 工).

A seventy something Chinese woman told me, the day she got married, she became a slave to the family, her mother-in-law, her husband and the rest of her husband’s family.